Reclaiming your personal boundaries, is reclaiming your feminine power: Tuning into time.
Feminine power is personal power and when you are a woman who is aching to claim ALL of her divine feminine energy, that personal power once embodied, becomes feminine power. In the name of yourself and all other women striving to do the same.
Tending our divine feminine energy and reclaiming our feminine power requires reclamation of our personal boundaries. It requires reclamation of our time, our energy, and our life for what we want it to be.
Tending our dreams requires enough self-love, self-respect, and self-reverence that will fuel the kind of committed self-care that can support us on this journey. This is what keeps a clear head on our shoulders both intellectually and intuitively. Self-care is what keeps us clear enough to have the awareness and energy needed to fuel the discipline and passion to live in alignment with our truth.
Self-care is managing our time. It’s valuing time as our life’s currency. It’s honoring ourselves first. It is choosing to live for us. Tuning into our relationship to time is very symbolic of our relationship with ourselves. How we relate with time is how we relate with our own life currency.
Western culture has a tendency to move very quickly. Worth is tied to how much we can do in x amount of time. Worth is tied to production, efficiency, and getting as much accomplished as we possibly can. Think super mom, businesswoman, healer, and the realm of health and beauty - as women we get praised for stretching ourselves thin and pushing ourselves beyond our limits. This is not feminine power and this is not divine feminine energy in its purest form.
Reclaiming our personal boundaries is choosing ourselves. Feminine power is choosing ourselves.
On the journey of reclamation, we often end up running around like a chicken with its head cut off unaware that we don’t actually have a clear direction or path, even though we are so sure of where we are trying to go. Our journey can become so emotional or mental that we lose ourselves, we lose our roots and we lost our way. When we choose ourselves, we may not know who that is but we create the time and space that we need to figure it out.
Coming back to our center is the divine feminine way. Coming back within is the divine feminine way. Coming back to our heart is the divine feminine way.
When we lose the sense of, or connection with our forever shapeshifting internal compass that is the container that steers us steady we completely lose orientation to not only where we are but where we are going and where we want to be going. When we don’t make space and time for that inner wisdom, we end up so consumed with confusion and chaos that we miss the present. and can begin to think the wrong thing will make us happy.
When we slow down we have the opportunity to realize the potential of control we do have. When we slow down we have the opportunity to realize we weren’t actually taking the basic and needed steps to get to where we’re longing to go. When we slow down we have the opportunity to realize how much power and choice we do have.
We might realize the riptide that has been drowning has been a complete illusion that we’ve been accidentally and subconsciously instigating because we didn’t know any better.
Time is infinite. It doesn’t stop, it doesn’t end, we have simply placed ideology around the clock. Ultimately it just keeps going. We get to decide and prioritize what we want to make time for.
Life is ultimately deciding and becoming very clear on what our deepest priorities, values, and morals are. What’s most important to you. On a soul level. We get to decide whether we want to live by our heart or not.
Exhale out the busy body “necessities”, know your responsibilities that you chose to honor, know your longings, know your love, and know your heart. The clarity of your own heart’s truth dictates all else. This clarity or lack of clarity ultimately paints the picture of our life.
Think of yourself as the conductor of an orchestra. Think of each musician you are queuing as an aspect of your life. You get to set the tempo. You get to create a beautiful, harmonic, symphony that inspires you. Imagine yourself on the podium, in the position of power, conducting your own life, and tune in. Where are you creating or allowing chaos? Where are you giving your power away? Where are you not taking charge? Not being the leader? And where you are conducting harmony, joy, and beauty?
How are you actually spending your time? What goals are you striving for? Why? How is the way you are living in pursuit of them in alignment with what you're actually pursuing?
We have our foundational needs to meet regarding survival responsibilities and we get to chose our personal boundaries around risk and comfort. We get to chose our personal boundaries around balancing between soaking up the present, healing the past, and tending to the future. We get to pick our level of risk and comfort in how we manage this. In this mix, we also get to surrender or resist what we don’t have control over. It’s up to us how we meet unexpected twists in the road, how we meet change, grief, love, and opportunity.
When we truly look at where we are spending our time and face the truth regarding our quality of life on a heart level, we begin to notice where the chaos is, where the pain is, and where the joy is.
We have to take the seat our seat of feminine power and make it what we want. The choice is ours. It’s up to us to meet the unknown and participate fully.
The thing about time is it is always spent. We’ve all experienced the feeling that we wasted it, let it slip by, or missed it, and we’ve all felt moments where we’ve cherished it to the fullest. Regardless, it’s inevitably always spent. You can’t save it. You can’t tuck it away. You actively make it and you actively spend it. Time is presence and if you’re not present you have less power over what you make of it.
Where in life do you invest yourself that depletes you most?
Where in life do you invest yourself that nourishes you the most?
In the name of your feminine power, it’s time to begin to fiercely track where you need to retract yourself, and where you’d like to sink in and root more deeply. Tracking energy in this way is not linear, there is no algorithm, your heart and your inner wise one are your guiding light.
Like with dear friendships or intimate partners, there is an ebb and flow of exchange, it’s not equal each day and moment. There is an agreement (often unspoken) of trust, love, and loyalty to another to be there in times of need and to spend time together in the name of joy. The waves of external circumstances that induce sorrow, struggle, or joy, are out of our control. Our commitment is showing up present and being available for what is. The scales of justice ebb and flow, and it’s our job to know our capacity and orchestrate what we can to keep balance in the big picture.
The same goes for life. There is an ebb and flow of exchange. Life is a winding river of uncontrollable circumstances that at times bless us with joy and others challenge us with the deepest of pain. It’s the loyalty, love, and faith that keeps us present in a friendship or partnership and we need to have this with life itself - for our own sake of not missing it.
If we are living in integrity with our deepest truth there can be no regrets, no shortcomings, no missing out. There can be things we learn from that we would do differently a second time around. But if we are crystal clear with ourselves it all is what is and we’re free to make the life that we want.
Speaking our truth, and being loyal to our boundaries are foundational roots of nourishing reciprocity. These are foundational roots of feminine power and personal power. Being in relationships with people, situations, and environments that honor, and respect this in you is a mirror of you respecting yourself.
Having the courage to acknowledge where our personal boundaries and truth are not honored by the outside forces in our life is part of reclaiming our divine feminine energy. The other part is acknowledging where WE do not honor our own boundaries and truth.
Our divine feminine energy is innately compassionate and nurturing, and there is a lot of subliminal messaging teaching us that it is our duty to offer that. That it’s our duty, or great service to the world to give ourselves away. Shedding guilt and shame over our boundaries and needs is painful and powerful, and requires the practice of tuning in and lifting the veils to begin to do so.
Our feminine power requires deep self-care, and giving our whole selves away is completely contradictory to this.
The reclamation of self is taking your seat in your feminine power and CHOOSING where you make time and where you spend your energy. It’s honoring YOUR needs, knowing YOUR boundaries, and making the needed adaptations to take care of yourself and give or be of service in the ways that you would like.
“Insanity is doing the same thing over, and over again, expecting different results.” ~Albert Einstein Where you are living your life in a loop, that’s not serving you?
Tuning in is waking up deep within. It’s waking up with your inner eyes, inner ears, and inner sensory. It’s becoming still enough to listen and build trust with your inner wise one to guide you and for you to follow.
Think of your truth and your personal boundaries as another being, an entity in themselves, a relationship. Tend this relationship with deep love.
Our intuition is the guiding light to do all of this. We have to learn to HEAR, TRUST AND FOLLOW the threads that are guiding us.
Awareness is always the first step to making change. Unless we see what isn’t working, we can’t make changes to better anything. This is the wisdom of our divine feminine energy. This is the wisdom of the fierce mother who teaches us of boundaries and self preservations. This is the wisdom of feminine power. It’s not of force, it’s reclaiming ourselves as a force.
Lots of love sweet one,
Abby
