Sexual energy is our feminine essence
Our feminine essence is made of our sexual energy — it’s our life force.
The roots of sexuality go much deeper than acts of sex and orgasms. Reclaiming our sexuality as sacred energy moving through us at all times, as opposed to an act, is an awakening in itself.
Just like the illusion of feminine power trying to imbue in us that once reached, we never fall back into darkness again, I believe our sexuality to be the same. Our feminine nature is to dance between the contractions of the underworld and then expand into the ethers of bliss. It’s an ebb and flow and requires great honor and respect from ourselves to surrender to this medicine.
Our bodies play a deep role in sexuality, and sexuality gives us profound access to our spirituality. If we don’t honor our hearts and bodies as they ebb and flow with our spirits, we’ll cut ourselves off from one part of this wheel or another.
Our sexuality is the epitome of embracing ourselves as a spiritual being in a physical body, and our sexuality, in some sense, is the bridge between the two.
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Our erotic and sexual energy grants us access to move big energy through the entirety of our being.
When moving big energy, the contractions and expansion of shedding, and rebirthing are in full force. This inevitably means we’ll dance in the shadows, and the shadows of shedding must be honored for the joys of expansion to blossom.
This may at times mean using sex as a channel to move and process grief or anger, not just joy and ecstasy.
It may mean periods of celibacy where we don’t share our energy or our body with anyone.
There may also be times when we don’t want to activate more movement and instead need inner stillness, giving our sexuality space to recalibrate and find balance in new places of being.
Nobody talks about the contracting side of our sexual energy because we’ve been taught to be ashamed of it.
Our hearts and sexual energy are woven, and opening them both at the same time is an act of feminine reclamation.
We can use either our hearts to open our sexual energy, or we can use our sexual energy to open our hearts. They are soul mates in this sense. Their opening together may be the most vulnerable and powerful state we can harness and surrender to.
We, as women, are sacred in this way — our hearts and sexual energy are the power of feminine sexuality, and it is something that cannot be taken – it can only be given.
Having said this, there is also so much wounding in women’s sexuality that this doesn’t always come easily. It can honestly be quite painful to surrender to what’s there, but the truth is, the divine flame of our sexual energy is always alive and accessible – beneath the pressure we put on it, and our resistance to what it has to say.
Sexual energy expands and contracts to alchemize our own experiences, and it takes a lot of heart, capacity, and sovereignty to honor.
Dropping into our female form is a well of wisdom, with a lifetime of history – our bodies have so much to say when it comes to our sexual energy.
Our resistance to surrender to our inner truth is what dims our life force because we violate our own boundaries and push ourselves beyond our comfort. (but it also makes complete sense that we do, when we do.)
This may mean us shutting down and closing off completely, or not holding the boundaries our hearts or nervous systems long for.
Either way, when we resist our edges and deny our desires – we solidify disempowering stories into our body, psyche, and soul that don’t need to be there.
When we don’t listen to our bodies and our hearts, we teach ourselves that our hearts and bodies aren’t valid or safe to be as they are and feel as they do – but they are your most insightful, intelligent, empowered resource.
Sexual energy is spiritual energy.
Sex is the portal that brings spirit into being. It’s not limited to this role, or defined by this role, not all women experience this or choose to, and we have every right to experience sex for pure pleasure.
And sex is the act that quite literally brings spirit to life. Our pussy’s and wombs are the gateways between spirit and earth, regardless of our experiences. They hold this symbolic, energetic, divine medicine.
Our sexuality is something that can heal the depths of our soul, and instead, women have been taught that to be sexually satisfying is their lifeline to love and being wanted.
Some women know this feeling more intimately than others, and regardless, historically and collectively, it’s thick.
There is a profound link between mental health, happiness, creativity, and sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is a significant aspect of a woman’s full well-being in terms of body, mind, and soul. But to access sexual pleasure, we have to start at the roots that are deeper than sex itself.
When it comes to meeting your sexual energy and sexuality, take sex out of it, and start with your relationship with your nervous system and your own body.
The number of women who have experienced some form of sexual abuse or violence is astronomical.
Aside from that, the porn industry and the beauty industry have tap roots that have infected most, if not all of us, in some way or another, directly or indirectly.
I do not believe a single person has escaped this entirely.
Sexual and gender-based violence, objectification, and misogyny have shaped the stereotypical relationships between men and women.
Between the masculine and feminine.
Between men and men.
Between women and women.
Between all the tangles of gender and sexual identity.
And between all beings' relationship with their own sexuality.
We have all been taught to perform and control. We have all been taught false promises of power and ease, and have been instilled with fears of letting go
Learning to truly and deeply trust our sexual energy is incredibly healing and empowering.
What we often don't realize is how much power we really have as women – and I don’t mean in a shadowy, manipulative way.
I mean that most women underestimate the power of holding their sexual energy without flinching, performing, or contorting, and staying true to their hearts and bodies — no matter what that looks like for them.
We may not always be treated by others as though we have this kind of power – but we do.
We may not have been taught to treat ourselves like we have it — but we do.
Once we awaken to claiming the power of our raw, authentic, messy, perfectly imperfect selves — our bodies, our hearts, and our sexuality – magic happens, healing happens, and a great awakening happens.
Our sexual energy is a love affair between our hearts and bodies.
It’s relishing in the sensuality of love and flesh.
It’s pleasure and heart.
It’s body and spirit.
It’s not contained to our pelvic and sacral roots.
It’s not contained to our pussies, but can be ignited from them.
Our sexual energy was never meant to be confined to sex – it’s about a full-body, full-being awakening of enlivenment, to sensuously, and erotically soak up all of Life.
This is our greatest sexual power. It’s the realization that our sexual energy is woven through every part of us, every facet, and all of Life.
In life, notice where you get stuck in your comfort zone.
Push yourself to experience more – a wider range of Life, while also being in deep contact with the present moment, not forcing yourself beyond your true edge, not getting ahead of yourself, or stuck in the past.
Feed your desires and curiosities, facing your fears, being vulnerable, taking risks, chasign adventures, and cultivating safety, comfort, and trust.
Learn how to push yourself, without pushing yourself too hard.
Sexual energy is raw and vulnerable and asks us to surrender to it – its boundaries and desires.
Our sexual energy can’t be controlled and free at the same time.
Unless we have confidence, faith, and a strong sense of security in ourselves, it’s nearly impossible to let our sexual energy truly go.
The TV and magazines paint a sexual role for women that cuts us off from our true, messy, human, complex nature.
The true nature of our sexual energy can’t be compartmentalized. It takes bravery to turn our cheek on the sexual imagery we are surrounded by because it feels powerful to embody that role, but it’s not true power.
When we’re concerned about our bodies and facial expressions looking a certain way, sounding a certain way, moving a certain way, and even coming to orgasm or experiencing pleasure in a certain way — it cuts our sexual energy off from its authenticity and power, that grants us access to pleasure and insight we can’t know without surrender.
This is why I created this somatic meditation below – let your heart, womb, and pelvis speak. And I go much deeper into all of this on my mailing list.👇🏼👇🏾👇🏿
One of my greatest prayers is that women will shed their fear of their unhinged, honest, sexual energy, and that they will find safety and trust in listening to it and being led by it.
May we find courage that is bigger than the fear of being rejected or judged.
May we find the knowing in our bones that our sexual energy, when set free, will feed our soul in a mind-blowing way that will override any false sense of love, security, or power that comes with playing the prescribed role of a “sexy woman”.
Sexual energy opens us to the ascension of our feminine power.
The true power of our feminine sexuality has been so hushed that most women don’t even recognize their toxic or limited perspectives.
When we embody our sexuality in relationship to the role of the “desirable woman” we’ve been taught — it invokes men to treat us badly, and women to hate us. It also supports the perpetuation of all the tangled phobias, violence, and discrimination in the various realms of genders and sexual identities.
If we play a part, instead of listening to our bodies and hearts — we will be left lonely, unsatisfied, and longing for love.
But if we were to set our sexual energy unapologetically free, with an open, undefensive, trusting heart, we’d find access to an infinite love for ourselves and one another.
We’d meet pleasure, joy, and happiness in their true colors.
Don’t get me wrong – this is a process, not a mental choice.
Sex and love are beautiful and messy, and they carry a lot of collective baggage.
And also, being human is simply messy and uncomfortable, and sex is one of, if not the, most vulnerable acts we can partake in.
Sexual energy is in some ways the centerpiece of feminine power – but it’s not what we are taught to think.
The illusions of sexuality steer us in the opposite direction of its greatest power.
The power of our sexual energy lives in our female form and feminine bones.
Our female consciousness knows it.
Our hearts, wombs, and pussies know it.
They ache for us to listen, and to surrender to the infinite journey of unraveling and expansion, drinking in the freedom, the power, and the love of this beautiful life, as beautiful souls, in beautiful bodies, on this beautiful earth.
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Once you do, I’ll guide you from there.
I’m glad you found your way here.
Let's wake the women.
With marigold love,
Abby
