Sexual energy is our feminine essence
Our feminine essence is sexual energy, it’s our life force. The roots of sexuality go much deeper than acts of sex and orgasms. Reclaiming our sexuality as sacred energy moving through us at all times as opposed to an act, is an awakening in itself.
Just like the illusion of feminine power trying to imbue to us that once reached we never fall back into darkness again, I believe our sexuality to be the same. Our feminine nature is to dance between the contractions of the underworld and then expand into the ethers of bliss. It’s an ebb and flow and it requires a great honor and respect from ourselves to surrender to this medicine.
Our bodies play a deep role in sexuality and sexuality gives us profound access to our spirituality. If we don’t honor our hearts and bodies as they ebb and flow with our spirits we’ll cut ourselves off from one part of this wheel or another. Our sexuality is the epitome of embracing ourselves as a spiritual being in a physical body, and as a soul living here on earth. Our sexuality in some sense is the bridge between the two.
Our sexual energy grants us access to move big energy through the entirety of our being. When moving big energy the contractions and expansion of shedding, and rebirthing are in full force inevitably meaning we’ll dance in the shadows and the shadows of shedding must be honored for the joys of expansion to blossom.
This may at times mean using sex as a healing tool to move and process grief or anger, not just joy and ecstasy. It may be periods of celibacy where we don’t share our energy with another. Or there may be times when we don’t want to activate more movement and instead need inner stillness to recalibrate and find balance in new places of being.
Nobody talks about the contracting side of our sexual energy because we’ve been taught to be ashamed of it.
Our hearts and wombs are woven, and opening them both at the same time is an act of feminine reclamation. We can use either our hearts to open our wombs, or we can use our wombs to open our hearts. They are soul mates in this sense, and we women are blessed to experience the sacredness of the two together. Their opening together may be the most vulnerable and powerful state we can surrender to.
Sexual energy expands and contracts to alchemize our spirit with great spirit, and the surrender to this dance takes so much heart and sovereignty to honor. It’s the resistance to surrender in this dance that dims our life force because we violate our own boundaries and push ourselves beyond our comfort. Whether that is us shutting down and closing off completely, or not holding the boundaries our hearts long for, either way, we solidify disempowering stories into our body and soul that doesn’t need to be. We teach ourselves that our hearts and wombs or pussy’s aren’t valid or safe to be as they are.
Sexual energy is spiritual energy. Sex is the portal that brings spirit into being. It’s not limited to this role, or defined by this role, not all women experience this or chose to, and we have every right to experience sex for pure pleasure. But sex is the act that quite literally brings spirit to life. Our pussy’s and wombs are the gateways between spirit and earth.
Our sexuality is something that can heal the soul, and instead, women have been taught that being sexually satisfying is their lifeline to love and their lifeline to being wanted. All women may not have felt this before, but collectively it’s a thick and dense presence affecting more of us than we think whether from personal experience, from our ancestral roots, or witnessing it in others. There is truth to it, and it’s a painful truth to break.
There is a profound link between mental health, happiness, creativity, and sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is a significant aspect of a woman’s full wellbeing in terms of body, mind, and soul. But to access sexual pleasure we have to start at the roots that are deeper than sex itself.
The amount of women who have experienced some form of sexual abuse or violence is astronomical. Aside from that, the porn industry and the beauty industry have tap roots that have infected most if not all of us in some way or another, directly or indirectly. I don’t believe a single person has escaped this entirely.
This has shaped the stereotypical relationships between men and women, the masculine and feminine, between men and men, between women and women, and between men and women with themselves and their own sexuality. We have all been taught to perform and control. We have all been taught false promises of power, and have been instilled with fears of letting go
Learning to trust sexual energy in ourselves and in others is an infinite part of life and part of love.
Sexual energy is powerful. It has the potential of great purity and it can also be abused with devastating consequences. The healing journey is sometimes embracing our own energy in its purity, and sometimes it’s embracing each other’s sexuality in its purity - whether that is in our sisters or in an intimate partnership.
Sexual energy is healing. It can cleanse, purge, purify, tonify, invigorate, awaken, and channel new life - whether metaphorically or literally. It’s power and it’s the kind of power that is not of force, it’s a force in itself.
What we often don't realize is how much power we really have. We may not always be treated as though we have it, but we do. We may not have been taught to treat ourselves like we have it or believe that we have it, but we do. Once we awaken to claiming the power of ourselves, the power of our bodies, our hearts, and our sexuality as ours, magic happens, healing happens, and a great awakening happens.
Our sexual energy is a love affair between our hearts and bodies. It’s relishing in the sensuality of love and flesh. It’s pleasure and heart. It’s body and spirit. It’s not contained to our pelvic and sacral roots. It’s not contained to our pussy’s but can be ignited from them. It’s a full-body awakening. It’s a kundalini awakening of all our energy centers.
How do we awaken it? I think it’s life long, ever-changing exploration that’s a different path for each of us. But we can begin by asking ourselves, what turns us on? What turns us on to LIFE and makes us feel alive?
Ask yourself, what opens, heals, and awakens all the energy centers within you? From your root to your crown. What ignites your sense of safety and security? Your creativity? Your will? Your ability to love and receive love? Your ability to honor, speak and express your truth? Your ability to hear and trust your intuition? And your ability to embody your divinity?
This is our access to discover our sexual energy. It’s the realization that our sexual energy is woven with ALL of it. It’s not getting stuck in our comfort zones of energy or life, and it’s pushing ourselves to experience all of it - the full range AND surrendering to what’s present. It’s feeding our desires and curiosities, facing our fears, being vulnerable, taking risks, chasing adventures, and cultivating safety, comfort, and trust. It’s learning how to push ourselves and how to not push too hard.
Our sexuality is also learning how to support those we love to traverse this energy and awaken this range of life within themselves too. Sexual energy is meant to be shared. Whether that’s with spirit or a human being. It’s a sacred energy that we can find new portals of life through. New portals to our souls and each others that we can’t quite access on our own. It’s learning our boundaries, finding our voice, learning how to honor one another’s needs as well as our own. It’s supporting one another from a place of love, respect, and honor while cultivating genuine trust.
We get to chose our boundaries, our adventure, who is apart of it, and we get to claim what is true to us. The choice is the scariest part. Facing the truth is the scariest part. This is why the heart and womb are woven.
Sexual energy is raw and vulnerable and asks us to surrender to it. It’s can’t be controlled and free at the same time.
Unless we have confidence, faith, and a strong sense of security in ourselves it’s nearly impossible to let our sexual energy truly go. The TV and magazines paint a sexual role for women that cuts us off from our true nature. The true nature of our sexual energy can’t be compartmentalized. It takes bravery to turn our cheek on the sexual imagery we are surrounded by because it feels powerful to embody that role but it’s not true power.
When we’re concerned about our bodies and facial expressions looking a certain way, sounding a certain way, moving a certain way, and even coming to orgasm or experiencing pleasure in a certain way, it cuts our sexual energy off from moving at its own will and granting us access to pleasure we can’t know without surrender.
May we shed our fear of our sexuality in its purity. May we find courage that is bigger than fear of being rejected or judged for it. May we find the knowing in our bones that our sexual energy when set free will feed our soul in a mind-blowing way that will override any false sense of love, and power that comes with playing the prescribed role of a “sexy woman”.
Sexual energy opens us to the ascension of our feminine power, and it has been so hushed that many women struggle to access it or even find the awareness that their perspective of it is toxic or limited.
If we were to embody our sexuality in relationship to the role of the “desirable woman” we’ve been taught, it invokes men to treat us badly, and women to hate us. It will leave us lonely, unsatisfied, and longing for love. But if we were to set it free with an open, undefensive trusting heart, we’d find access to an infinite love for ourselves and one another. We’d meet pleasure, joy, and happiness in their true colors.
Sex and love get messy because we are usually always trying to control one or the other and neither can be restrained. They go hand and hand, one cannot live without the other. May we surrender to their force, their power, and receive the beauty of their love affair with one another.
Sexual energy is in some ways the centerpiece of feminine power. It’s the combination of a free heart, a love affair with our body, and an awakening of the soul. From here our creative life force and feminine intuitive wisdom can blossom but our sexuality is the crest of our power and expression birthing in full form.
The illusions of sexual energy have the potential to shut down our hearts and disconnect us from our bodies. The illusions have the potential to taint our sexual experiences and to put out our creative fire. They have the potential to make it very hard to trust spirit moving through us, BUT it doesn't have to be that way. And it’s this we have to believe in.
This energy lives in our feminine bones. Our soul knows it, and our hearts and pussy ache for us to surrender to the infinite journey of unraveling and expansion drinking in the freedom, the power, and the love of this beautiful life, as beautiful souls, in beautiful bodies, with one another on this beautiful earth.
Find the people who are ready for you. Find the people who are aching for you to surrender as much as you for them. These are the ones we want to spend our lives with. These are the ones who will love us, for us. These are the ones who make life worth living. These are dearest and best friends life is meant for.
Big love beautiful woman.
Until next time,
Abby
